This is the difference between women and men. Women ask stuff like this.
Men ask shit like “do you like your ass eaten?”
*sigh*
PrimaryAsleep9042 on
Probe them about it if it comes up in conversation
But yeah, don’t start one like this
leakmydata on
Tbf an entire generation of women dating bigoted men and just “not talking about politics” didn’t go so well.
glitteredglory on
Abrasive, but effective.
6295585628015862 on
School for scoundrels taught me to mirror my dates interests so the answer is obvious. The real hurtle is getting her onto my boat where magic happens.
Pimpwerx on
Know what you want, and be comfortable with the response. Different strokes for different folks. Everyone has a different dating experience that build different habits.
Efficient-Trouble697 on
More people have died in sudan in the last week than people have in Gaza in the last two years.
Minimaliszt on
I matched with a woman once and my opening question was about one of her hobbies. It was genuinely interesting and she seemed eager to talk about it based on her profile. I asked and she legitimately messaged back, “Why do you want to know?” I noped out of there so fast.
Quadraxis66 on
Maybe don’t *start* with this, but I get where they’re coming from – it’s to filter out people who get angry about the question instead of just giving an opinion.
DawRogg on
HTC864 on
This is weird and performative.
GRUSM on
Tbh seems like a solid question to ask if you’re looking to date someone for real. I would for sure be asking some political questions early on if I were dating nowadays.
InternetMysterious21 on
I’m all for getting some of the big moral issues out the way early. I need to know if I want to be around you again. But bare in mind, even if they give all the right answer they still can be dumb.
FrenchFryNotFrench on
As a Palestinian this has always been on my profile and a question I asked. I got banned from Bumble for it haha
mpschettig on
I support Palestine but this would turn me off ngl. Then again I already have some of my political views in my dating profile to make sure Republicans don’t accidentally match with me
SunForge_Arts on
The amount of people who can’t look at the entire situation and just say “yes” when first asked is a pretty damn good reason why it should come up first when meeting someone rather than later. Couldn’t imagine courting someone up to the point of marriage just to find out they’re a zionist that supports genocide.
Special-Garlic1203 on
Stuff like this is dumb because the *worst* type of men will just mirror what they know you want to hear. You need to probe in a way where they can’t quite get a sense of what the “correct” answer is.
sw337 on
Why crop the account saying this? If this is black people twitter why hide the black account posting this?
Lurker4Memes on
The amount of people arguing about this is just a clear sign that this is definitely not a good way to start a conversation for dating 😂
yarivu on
I wouldn’t have a problem with opening like this as long as we were able to move on to new topics after it was established I don’t support genocide.
And tbf if you’re someone who doesn’t shy away from politics and doesn’t appreciate apathy, this is a good way to weed out fence sitters and “politically neutral” types too.
VanTaxGoddess on
This was literally me and a first date; we hit it off after that!
Mahdudecicle on
I met my wife online and laid out all my deal breakers on the second date
Morningshoes18 on
Only someone whose politics doesn’t align with her would be bothered by this. If they did they could go hell yeah and move on.
CuriousTsukihime on
When I was dating during covid I noticed a lot of white and Latino dudes would match with me. Nothing wrong there, but after politics came up a good majority of them were MAGA and were shocked that I would take offense… AS A WOMAN OF COLOR 😒. So I put two things in my profile:
“Every vote I own in the ballot box to the left”
“If black lives don’t matter why are you swiping right on me?”
That cut the noise down considerably! Dating is for finding out if you’re compatible. I honestly don’t care how women go out of their way to protect themselves, their peace, and their time. Being up front saves both of us from wasting time and getting more involved than we should. You don’t agree with it? Cool I guess, but I’d rather someone be blunt and up front about what’s important to them so I don’t have to process the disappointment.
joozyan on
Assuming the OP isn’t Israeli or Palestinian, this being top of mind as a political litmus test is very telling in itself.
CatchAcceptable3898 on
Dating has never been easier. “I know a little about it, please tell me more 👉👈😳” call them smart, caring, and well informed. Just don’t ask for nudes at least until they get to the Six Day War.
PrizeSquare329 on
Imagine failing the easiest moral checkpoint in history.
GeniusOfLove74 on
Note: We’re divorced now.
I met my second husband in 2004. We got along. Things were fine. Mind you, we’re both white. George W. Bush was in office.
Obama got elected. Things seemed fine, until I actually asked him about some of Obama’s policies. Suddenly, he “didn’t trust Obama”. Never mentioned anything about it up until I asked. As he became more honest, he wasn’t happy about literally anything Obama did. Tan suit, mustard, gun control, etc.
When DJT began his 2016 campaign, my now ex claimed he had hoped Jeb Bush would have gotten the nomination.
Now? He’s full-on MAGA, and now owns semi-automatic weapons. We didn’t own guns when we were together. He lives in the middle of nowhere, back in the woods, “so people can’t find him”. This is the same man who watched anime, played video games, etc., when we were together.
Point is, I wish I had known his actual attitudes on politics. Some of my boyfriends since have surprised me with being quite liberal, as I live in a quite red area of Georgia. But for the most part, it’s very MAGA-heavy here, and it’s disappointing. So I have stayed single the past few years.
Those questions are necessary.
Dizzy-Creme3416 on
I’ll start asking people if Taiwan should be independent or not as my first question
EatMyShortzZzZzZ on
Why would anyone want to share their life with someone who supports genocide? Makes sense to me.
alexlechef on
You got to start strong
Realistic_Effort6185 on
Core values are more important than height.
Meander061 on
I’d probably ask “Did you vote for Trump?” as my opening dealbreaker, but I support this approach. “What was the last book you read?” would work, too.
sw337 on
> Do you support Palestine?
Of course, I support the ending of all mass killings because I’m not an insane person. The people of Palestine deserve human rights and a democratic government.
While we’re on the subject:
[Do you support the Palestinians calling blacks “Abeed” (slave) and limiting the rights and job opportunities of Afro-Palestinians?](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abeed)
If you’re okay with asking hard questions why not this one too?
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This is the difference between women and men. Women ask stuff like this.
Men ask shit like “do you like your ass eaten?”
*sigh*
Probe them about it if it comes up in conversation
But yeah, don’t start one like this
Tbf an entire generation of women dating bigoted men and just “not talking about politics” didn’t go so well.
Abrasive, but effective.
School for scoundrels taught me to mirror my dates interests so the answer is obvious. The real hurtle is getting her onto my boat where magic happens.
Know what you want, and be comfortable with the response. Different strokes for different folks. Everyone has a different dating experience that build different habits.
More people have died in sudan in the last week than people have in Gaza in the last two years.
I matched with a woman once and my opening question was about one of her hobbies. It was genuinely interesting and she seemed eager to talk about it based on her profile. I asked and she legitimately messaged back, “Why do you want to know?” I noped out of there so fast.
Maybe don’t *start* with this, but I get where they’re coming from – it’s to filter out people who get angry about the question instead of just giving an opinion.
This is weird and performative.
Tbh seems like a solid question to ask if you’re looking to date someone for real. I would for sure be asking some political questions early on if I were dating nowadays.
I’m all for getting some of the big moral issues out the way early. I need to know if I want to be around you again. But bare in mind, even if they give all the right answer they still can be dumb.
As a Palestinian this has always been on my profile and a question I asked. I got banned from Bumble for it haha
I support Palestine but this would turn me off ngl. Then again I already have some of my political views in my dating profile to make sure Republicans don’t accidentally match with me
The amount of people who can’t look at the entire situation and just say “yes” when first asked is a pretty damn good reason why it should come up first when meeting someone rather than later. Couldn’t imagine courting someone up to the point of marriage just to find out they’re a zionist that supports genocide.
Stuff like this is dumb because the *worst* type of men will just mirror what they know you want to hear. You need to probe in a way where they can’t quite get a sense of what the “correct” answer is.
Why crop the account saying this? If this is black people twitter why hide the black account posting this?
The amount of people arguing about this is just a clear sign that this is definitely not a good way to start a conversation for dating 😂
I wouldn’t have a problem with opening like this as long as we were able to move on to new topics after it was established I don’t support genocide.
And tbf if you’re someone who doesn’t shy away from politics and doesn’t appreciate apathy, this is a good way to weed out fence sitters and “politically neutral” types too.
This was literally me and a first date; we hit it off after that!
I met my wife online and laid out all my deal breakers on the second date
Only someone whose politics doesn’t align with her would be bothered by this. If they did they could go hell yeah and move on.
When I was dating during covid I noticed a lot of white and Latino dudes would match with me. Nothing wrong there, but after politics came up a good majority of them were MAGA and were shocked that I would take offense… AS A WOMAN OF COLOR 😒. So I put two things in my profile:
“Every vote I own in the ballot box to the left”
“If black lives don’t matter why are you swiping right on me?”
That cut the noise down considerably! Dating is for finding out if you’re compatible. I honestly don’t care how women go out of their way to protect themselves, their peace, and their time. Being up front saves both of us from wasting time and getting more involved than we should. You don’t agree with it? Cool I guess, but I’d rather someone be blunt and up front about what’s important to them so I don’t have to process the disappointment.
Assuming the OP isn’t Israeli or Palestinian, this being top of mind as a political litmus test is very telling in itself.
Dating has never been easier. “I know a little about it, please tell me more 👉👈😳” call them smart, caring, and well informed. Just don’t ask for nudes at least until they get to the Six Day War.
Imagine failing the easiest moral checkpoint in history.
Note: We’re divorced now.
I met my second husband in 2004. We got along. Things were fine. Mind you, we’re both white. George W. Bush was in office.
Obama got elected. Things seemed fine, until I actually asked him about some of Obama’s policies. Suddenly, he “didn’t trust Obama”. Never mentioned anything about it up until I asked. As he became more honest, he wasn’t happy about literally anything Obama did. Tan suit, mustard, gun control, etc.
When DJT began his 2016 campaign, my now ex claimed he had hoped Jeb Bush would have gotten the nomination.
Now? He’s full-on MAGA, and now owns semi-automatic weapons. We didn’t own guns when we were together. He lives in the middle of nowhere, back in the woods, “so people can’t find him”. This is the same man who watched anime, played video games, etc., when we were together.
Point is, I wish I had known his actual attitudes on politics. Some of my boyfriends since have surprised me with being quite liberal, as I live in a quite red area of Georgia. But for the most part, it’s very MAGA-heavy here, and it’s disappointing. So I have stayed single the past few years.
Those questions are necessary.
I’ll start asking people if Taiwan should be independent or not as my first question
Why would anyone want to share their life with someone who supports genocide? Makes sense to me.
You got to start strong
Core values are more important than height.
I’d probably ask “Did you vote for Trump?” as my opening dealbreaker, but I support this approach. “What was the last book you read?” would work, too.
> Do you support Palestine?
Of course, I support the ending of all mass killings because I’m not an insane person. The people of Palestine deserve human rights and a democratic government.
While we’re on the subject:
[Do you support the Palestinians calling blacks “Abeed” (slave) and limiting the rights and job opportunities of Afro-Palestinians?](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abeed)
If you’re okay with asking hard questions why not this one too?
This is dumb and performative.